Friday, April 29, 2011

Day 18: Your biggest insecurity

I don't know what my biggest insecurity is but I have many fears. I guess a big insecurity is that I don't like being insulted or praised. No it is true! I don't really know how to return a compliment well so it makes me feel awkward when someone tells me I'm great or smart or something. Then I hate being insulted. This is because I have a very unbalanced self confidence scale that is easily tipped to low. I like living my life as me because I'm me, not because I have a compliment or insult given to me.

There is this book called You are Special by Max Lucado. Here is a summary off Good Reads:

The Wemmicks are wooden people. They give each other stars and dot. Stars are for being talented and pretty, and dots are for being ugly or non-talented. Punchinello is a Wemmick who receives dots, but one day he meets a Wemmick who doesn’t have stars or dots and is told to go visit Eli. He does, and Eli tells Punchinello that he is special because Eli made him. He also tells him the only way to get rid of the spots is to not care about what other people think about him. When Punchinello leaves Eli’s, one of his dots falls off of his body.


It is a great book and so are all of Max Lucado's. I hope you understand how this applies to my insecurity if not ask someone else.


5 comments:

Elizabeth said...

I completely understand that! I'm destroyed by the smallest criticism, but completely uncomfortable when someone praises me. I had no idea you were like that too!

Kathryn said...

I totally forgot that that book exsisted until you reminded me. It should be on my list of favorite books because I remember feeling like it was a life changing book in a beautiful children's story with marvelous pictures.

Micah said...

What if I don't understand and I want to ask you what it means because you are an intelligent, thoughtful, and insightful person? What then?

jenn said...

You ARE special Kate. I'm just sayin'...

Angela said...

I totally understand. I don't accept compliments well and I'm very defensive when others choose to be critical.

The lesson? Approach with care. Wait until I'm feeling chatty and self-aware. If I ask your honest opinion, give an honest answer. If I don't ask, keep it to yourself.